THE STATUS OF FAMILY IN ISLAM.

status of family in islam

THE STATUS OF FAMILY IN ISLAM.

Praise be to Allaah.

Before we find out about the role of Islam in organizing and protecting the family, we should first find out what the situation of the family was before Islam, and what it is in the West in modern times. Before Islam, the family was based on mistreatment and oppression. All affairs were controlled only by men or in other words, the males, and women and girls were oppressed and humiliated. An example of that is that if a man died and left behind a wife, his son by another wife had the right to marry her and control her life, or to prevent her from getting married. Men were the only ones who could inherit; women and children had no share. They viewed women, whether they were mothers, daughters or sisters, as a source of shame, because they could be taken as prisoners, thus bringing shame upon the family. Hence a man would bury his infant daughter alive, as is referred to in the Qur’aan, where Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And when the news of (the birth of) a female (child) is brought to any of them, his face becomes dark, and he is filled with inward grief!

He hides himself from the people because of the evil of that whereof he has been informed. Shall he keep her with dishonour or bury her in the earth? Certainly, evil is their decision”

(SURAH AN-NAHL 16 VERSE 58-59)

The family in the broader sense, i.e., the tribe, was based on supporting one another in all things, even in wrongdoing. When Islam came, it did away with all that and established justice, giving each person his or her rights, even nursing infants, and even the miscarried foetus who was to be respected and prayed for (i.e., given a proper funeral). When you examine the family in the West today you will find that families are disintegrating and the parents cannot control their children, whether intellectually or morally. The son has the right to go wherever he wants and do whatever he wants; the daughter has the right to sit with whoever she wants and sleep with whoever she wants, all in the name of freedom and rights. And what is the result? Broken families, children born outside marriage, (elderly) mothers and fathers who are not looked after. As some wise men have said, if you want to know the true nature of these people, go to the prisons and the hospitals and seniors’ homes, for children do not remember their parents except on holidays and special occasions.

The point is that many non-Muslims the institution of family is destroyed. When Islam came it paid a great deal of attention to the establishment of strong families and protecting them from things that could harm them, and preserving family ties whilst giving each member of the family an important role in life. Islam honoured women, whether as mothers, daughters or sisters,wives.

ISLAM HONOURS WOMEN AS MOTHERS. :-

Honouring one’s mother is one of the greatest means of drawing closer to Allaah and one of the most important obligations, and one of the most beloved deeds to Allaah after faith, because of her great rights and because of her efforts and kindness.Pleasing one’s mother is regarded as part of pleasing Allaah. Islam tells us that Paradise lies at the mother’s feet, i.e. that the best way to reach Paradise is through one’s mother. And Islam forbids disobeying one’s mother or making her angry, even by saying a mild word of disrespect. The mother’s rights are greater than those of the father, and the duty to take care of her grows greater as the mother grows older and weaker. All of that is mentioned in many texts of the Qur’aan and Sunnah Prophetic traditions.

EVIDENCE FROM QURAN :-

‘Worship Allah(God) and join not any partners with Him; and be kind to your parents…”

(SURAH NISA 4 VERSE 36)

We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth”.

(SURAH AL-AHQAF 46 VERSE 15)

Be Kind To Your Parents And Kindred,The Orphans, And Those In Need,And Speak Kindly To Mankind.

(SURAH BAQARAH 2 VERSE 83)

We have enjoined on man and woman kindness to parents; but if they (either of them) strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not’”

(SURAH AL-ANKABUT 29 VERSE 8)

Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility and say, “My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood.”

(SURAH AL ISRA 17 VERSE 23-24)

We have enjoined on man and woman (to be good) to his/her parents; show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is (thy final) Goal. If they (parents) strive to make thee join in worship with Me things of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not; yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration) and follow the way of those who turn to Me (in love)”

(SURAH LUQMAN 31 VERSE 14-15)

EVIDENCE FROM SUNNAH :-

Abu Huraira reported that a person came to Allah, ‘s Messenger (may peace be upon him) and said:Who among the people is most deserving of a fine treatment from my hand? He said: Your mother. He again said: Then who (is the next one)? He said: Again it is your mother (who deserves the best treatment from you). He said: Then who (is the next one)? He (the Holy Prophet) said: Again, it is your mother. He (again) said: Then who? Thereupon he said: Then it is your father.

SAHIH MUSLIM (Book 32, Hadith 6180)
SAHIH BUKHARI (Vol. 8, Book 73, Hadith 2)
ADAB UL-MUFRAD (Book 1, Hadith 5)
ADAB UL-MUFRAD (Book 1, Hadith 6)

Ibn Salamah As-Sulami narrated that the Prophet (p.b.u.h) said:“I enjoin each one to honor his mother,I enjoin each one to honor his mother,I enjoin each one to honor his mother(three times), I enjoin each one to honor his guardian who is taking care of him, even if he is causing him some annoyance.”(Hasan)

IBN MAJAH (Vol. 5, Book 33, Hadith 3657)

Abu Huraira reported that a person said:Allah’s Messenger, who amongst the people is most deserving of my good treatment? He said: Your mother, again your mother, again your mother, then your father, then your nearest relatives according to the order (of nearness).

SAHIH MUSLIM (Book 32, Hadith 6181)
IBN MAJAH (Vol. 5, Book 33, Hadith 3658)

Miqdam bin Ma’dikarib, may Allah be pleased with them, narrated that:Allah’s Messenger said: “Allah enjoins you to treat your mother’s kindly”-three times- “Allah enjoins you to treat your fathers kindly, Allah enjoins you to treat the closest and the next closest kindly.” (Hasan)

IBN MAJAH (Vol. 5, Book 33, Hadith 3661)
ADAB UL-MUFRAD ( Book 1, Hadith 14)

Bahz bin Hakim narrated from his father, from his grandfather who said:”I said: ‘O Messenger of Allah! Who most deserves(my) reverence?’ He said: ‘Your mother.’” He said: “I said: ‘Then who?’ He said: ‘Your mother.’” He said: “I said: ‘Then who?’ He said: ‘Your mother.’” He said: “I said: ‘Then who?’ He said: ‘Then your father, then the nearest relatives, then the nearest relatives.’”(Hasan)

SUNAN TIRMIDHI (Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1897)
ADAB UL-MUFRAD (Book 1, Hadith 3)

Sa’id ibn Abi Burda said, “I heard my father sat that Ibn ‘Umar saw a Yamani man going around the House while carrying his mother on his back, saying, ‘I am your humble camel. If her mount is frightened, I am not frightened.’ Then he asked, ‘Ibn ‘Umar? Do you think that I have repaid her?’ He replied, ‘No, not even for a single groan.’

ADAB UL-MUFRAD (Book 1, Hadith 11)

PARADISE LIES BENEATH THE FEET OF MOTHER. :-

Narrated that Mu’aawiyah ibn Jaahimiah al-Sulami (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allaah, I want to go for jihad (battle) with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allaah and the Hereafter. He said, “Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?” I said, Yes. He said, “Go back and honour her.” Then I approached him from the other side and said: O Messenger of Allaah, I want to go for jihad with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allaah and the Hereafter. He said, “Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?” I said, Yes. He said, “Go back and honour her.” Then I approached him from in front and said, O Messenger of Allaah, I want to go for jihad with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allaah and the Hereafter. He said, “Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?” I said, Yes. He said, “Go back and honour her (lit. stay by her feet), for there is Paradise.”

IBN MAJAH (HADITH 2774)

SOURCE OF IBN MAJAH :-

http://www.islamweb.net/hadith/display_hbook.php?bk_no=173&pid=43221&hid=2774

THE PUNISHMENT FOR DISOBEYING PARENT. :-

One of the most obvious ways of honouring one’s parents is striving to please them and make them happy, and removing things that upset them or annoy them. Fear Allaah and beware of being one of those who disobey their parents without realizing it.

ONE OF THE MAJOR SINS TO DISOBEY PARENTS. :-

Narated By Anas bin Malik : Allah’s Apostle mentioned the greatest sins or he was asked about the greatest sins. He said, “To join partners in worship with Allah; to kill a soul which Allah has forbidden to kill; and to be undutiful or unkind to one’s parents.” The Prophet added, “Shall I inform you of the biggest of the great sins? That is the forged statement or the false witness.” Shu’ba (the sub-narrator) states that most probably the Prophet said, “the false witness.”

SAHIH BUKHARI (Vol 08, Book 073, Hadith 08)

Abu Bakra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Shall I tell you which is the worst of the major wrong actions?” “Yes, Messenger of Allah,” they replied. He said, “Associating something else with Allah and disobeying parents.” he had been reclining, but then he said up and said, “And false witness.” Abu Bakr said, “He continued to repeat it until I said, ‘Is he never going to stop?’”

ADAB UL-MUFRAD (Book 1, Hadith 15)

It was narrated from Salim bin ‘Abdullah that his father said:”The Messenger of Allah said: “There are three at whom Allah will not look on the Day of Resurrection: The one who disobeys his parents, the woman who imitates men in her outward appearance, and the cuckold. And there are three who will not enter Paradise: The one who disobeys his parents, the drunkard, and the one who reminds people of what he has given them.”‘ (Hasan)

SUNAN NASEEI (Vol. 3, Book 3, Hadith 2563)

Taysala ibn Mayyas said, “I was with the Najadites [Kharijites] when I committed wrong actions which I supposed were major wrong actions. I mentioned that to Ibn ‘Umar. He inquired, ‘What are they?” I replied, ‘Such-and-such.’ He stated, ‘These are not major wrong actions. There are nine major wrong actions. They are:associating others with Allah, killing someone, desertion from the army when it is advancing, slandering a chaste woman, usury, consuming an orphan’s property, heresy in the mosque, scoffing, and causing one’s parents to weep through disobedience.’ Ibn ‘Umar then said to me, ‘Do you wish to separate yourself from the Fire? Would you like to enter Paradise?’ ‘By Allah, yes!’ I replied. He asked, ‘Are your parents still alive?’ I replied, ‘My mother is.’ He said, ‘By Allah, if you speak gently to her and feed her, then you will enter the Garden as long as you avoid the major wrong actions.’”

ADAB UL-MUFRAD (Book 1, Hadith 8)

It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The Lord is pleased when the parents are pleased and He is angry when the parents are angry.

MUSTADRAK AL-HAAKIM (HADITH 7331)

SOURCE OF MUSTADRAK AL-HAAKIM :-

http://www.islamweb.net/newlibrary/display_book.php?idfrom=7170&idto=7171&bk_no=74&ID=3114

SHOABUL EMAAN BAIHAQI (HADITH 7330)

SOURCE OF SHOABUL EMAAN BAIHAQI :-

http://www.islamweb.net/hadith/display_hbook.php?bk_no=682&hid=7330&pid=144684

IMAM HAKIM SAID :-

It isnad is sahih as per Imam Muslim.

Abdullah bin Amr narrated that:the Prophet said: “The Lord’s pleasure is in the parent’s pleasure, and the Lord’s anger is in the parent’s anger.”(Hasan).

SUNAN TIRMIDHI (Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1899)

‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar said, “The pleasure of the Lord lies in the pleasure of the parent. The anger of the Lord lies in the anger of the parent.”

ADAB UL-MUFRAD (Book 1, Hadith 2)

Ibn ‘Umar said, “Making parents weep is part of disobedience and one of the major wrong actions.”

ADAB UL-MUFRAD (Book 1, Hadith 31)

THE PROPHET (PEACE AND BLESSINGS OF ALLAAH BE UPON HIM) SENT BACK A MAN WHO HAD MIGRATED TO JOIN HIM IN JIHAD WHEN HE FOUND OUT THAT HE HAD LEFT HIS PARENTS WEEPING.

Narrated that Mu’aawiyah ibn Jaahimah came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allaah, I want to go out and fight (in jihad) and I have come to consult you. He said; “Do you have a mother?” He said: Yes. He said: “Then stay with her, for Paradise is at her feet.

MUSNAD AHMAD (HADITH 15110)

SOURCE OF MUSNAD AHMAD :-

http://www.islamweb.net/newlibrary/display_book.php?idfrom=14989&idto=14989&bk_no=6&ID=123

Abdullah ibn ‘Amr said, “A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and made a pledge to him that he would do hijra. He left his parents who were in tears. The Prophet said, ‘Go back to them and make them laugh as you made them weep.’”

ADAB UL-MUFRAD (Book 1, Hadith 13)
ADAB UL-MUFRAD (Book 1, Hadith 19)
ABU DAWOOD (Book #14, Hadith #2522)
SUNAN NASEEI (Vol. 5, Book 3, Hadith 4168)

Abdullah b. ‘Anir reported that a person came to Allah’s Apostle (may peace be upon him) and sought permission (to participate) in Jihad, whereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: Are your parents living? He said: Yes. Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: You should put in your best efforts (in their) service.

SAHIH MUSLIM (Book 32,Hadith 6184)

‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr said, “A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, wanting to do jihad. The Prophet asked, ‘Are your parents alive?’ ‘Yes,’ he replied. he said, ‘Then exert yourself on their behalf.’”

ADAB UL-MUFRAD (Book 1, Hadith 20)

One of the rights which Islam gives to the mother is that her son should spend on her if she needs that support, so long as he is able and can afford it. Hence for many centuries it was unheard of among the people of Islam for a mother to be left in an old-people’s home or for a son to kick her out of the house, or for her sons to refuse to spend on her, or for her to need to work in order to eat and drink if her sons were present.

NOTE :-

There are other texts which we do not have room to mention here. We have Explained in detailed regarding the rights of parents please check the below link.

https://islaahh.wordpress.com/2012/10/31/rights-of-parents/
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ISLAM HONOURS WOMEN AS DAUGHTERS. :-

Islam honours women as daughters, and encourages us to raise them well and educate them. Islam states that raising daughters will bring a great reward.

Abu Bakr bin ‘Ubaidullah bin Anas bin Malik narrated [from Anas] that:the Messenger of Allah said: “Whoever raises two girls then I and he will enter Paradise like these two.” And he indicated with his two fingers.(Sahih)

SUNAN TIRMIDHI (Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1914)

Uqbah bin Amir said, I heard the Messenger of Allah(p.b.u.h) say:”Whoever has three daughters and is patient towards them, and feeds them, gives them to drink, and clothes them from his wealth; they will be a shield for him from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection.’” (Sahih)

IBN MAJAH (Book 33, Hadith 13)
ADAB UL MUFRAD (Book 4, Hadith 1)

It was narrated from Ibn Abbas that the Messenger of Allah(p.b.u.h) said:”There is no man whose two daughters reach the age of puberty and he treats them kindly for the time they are together, but they will gain him admittance to Paradise.” (Sahih)

IBN MAJAH (Book 33, Hadith 14)
ADAB UL MUFRAD (Book 4, Hadith 2)

Jabir ibn ‘Abdullah reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Anyone who has three daughters and provides for them, clothes them and shows mercy to them will definitely enter the Garden.” A man from the people said, “And two daughters, Messenger of Allah?” He said, “And two.”

ADAB UL MUFRAD (Book 4, Hadith 3)

Al-Miqdam ibn Ma’dikarib heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, “What you feed yourself is sadaqa for you. What you feed your child is sadaqa for you. What you feed your wife is sadaqa is for you. What you feed your servant is sadaqa for you.”

ADAB UL MUFRAD (Book 4, Hadith 7)

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ISLAM HONOURS WOMEN AS WIVES. :-

Islam also honours women as wives. Islam urges the husband to treat his wife in a good and kind manner, and says that the wife has rights over the husband like his rights over her, except that he has a degree over her, because of his responsibility of spending and taking care of the family’s affairs. Islam states that the best of the Muslim men is the one who treats his wife in the best manner, and the man is forbidden to take his wife’s money without her consent.

FINANCIAL RIGHTS :-

The wife has financial rights over her husband, which are the mahr (dowry), spending and accommodation.
The mahr (dowry). This is the money to which the wife is entitled from her husband when the marriage contract is completed or when the marriage is consummated. It is a right which the man is obliged to pay to the woman.

And give women their dowries as a free gift but if they of themselves be pleased to give you a portion of them, then eat it with enjoyment and with wholesome result”

(SURAH NISA 4 VERSE 4)

This does not mean that the woman is a product to be sold, rather it is a symbol of honour and respect, and a sign that the husband is willing to shoulder his responsibilities and fulfil his duties. Sharee’ah does not stipulate a certain limit for the mahr that should not be overstepped, but it does encourage reducing the mahr and keeping it simple.

SPENDING :-

The scholars of Islam are agreed that it is obligatory for husbands to spend on their wives, on the condition that the wife make herself available to her husband. If she refuses him or rebels, then she is not entitled to that spending.The reason why it is obligatory to spend on her is that the woman is available only to her husband, because of the marriage contract, and she is not allowed to leave the marital home except with his permission. So he has to spend on her and provide for her, and this is in return for her making herself available to him for his pleasure.What is meant by spending is providing what the wife needs of food and accommodation. She has the right to these things even if she is rich, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“but the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother’s food and clothing on a reasonable basis”

(SURAH AL-BAQARAH 2 VERSE 233)

Narrated Aisha:Hind bint `Utba (Abu Sufyan’s wife) came and said, “O Allah’s Apostle! Abu Sufyan is a miser. Is there any harm if I spend something from his property for our children?” He said, there is no harm for you if you feed them from it justly and reasonably (with no extravagance).

SAHIH BUKHARI (Vol. 3, Book 43, Hadith 640)

A’isha reported:Hind. the daughter of ‘Utba, wife of Abu Sufyan, came to Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) and said: Abu Sufyan is a miserly person. He does not give adequate maintenance for me and my children, but (I am constrained) to take from his wealth (some part of it) without his knowledge. Is there any sin for me? Thereupon Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Take from his property what is customary which may suffice you and your children.

SAHIH MUSLIM (Book 18, Hadith 4251)

ACCOMODATION :-

Accommodation. This is also one of the wife’s rights, which means that her husband should prepare for her accommodation according to his means and ability. The fact that this spending is obligatory is indicated by the Qur’an, the Sunnah and the consensus of the scholars and of all wise people.

EVIDENCE FROM QURAN :-

“Let the rich man spend according to his means, and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allaah has given him. Allaah puts no burden on any person beyond what He has given him. Allaah will grant after hardship, ease.

(SURAH AL-TALAAQ 65 VERSE 7)

but the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother’s food and clothing on a reasonable basis. No person shall have a burden laid on him greater than he can bear.

(SURAH AL-BAQARAH 2 VERSE 233)

“Lodge them (the divorced women) where you dwell, according to your means”

(SURAH AL-TALAAQ 65 VERSE 6)

“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable

(SURAH AL-BAQARAH 2 VERSE 228)

EVIDENCE FROM SUNNAH :-

Many haadeet were narrated which show that it is obligatory for the husband to spend on his wife and children, and those who are under his guardianship.

Sulaiman bin Amr bin Al-Ahwas said:“My father narrated to me that he witnessed the farewell Hajj with the Messenger of Allah. So he thanked and praised Allah and he reminded and gave admonition. He mentioned a story in his narration and he (the Prophet) said: “And indeed I order you to be good to the women, for they are but captives with you over whom you have no power than that, except if they come with manifest Fahishah (evil behavior). If they do that, then abandon their beds and beat them with a beating that is not harmful. And if they obey you then you have no cause against them. Indeed you have rights over your women, and your women have rights over you. As for your rights over your women, then they must not allow anyone whom you dislike to treat on your bedding (furniture), nor to admit anyone in your home that you dislike. And their rights over you are that you treat them well in clothing them and feeding them.” (Sahih)

SUNAN TIRMIDHI (Vol. 1, Book 7, Hadith 1163)

Abu Hurairah narrated that The Messenger of Allah said:“The most complete of the believers in faith, is the one with the best character among them. And the best of you are those who are best to your women.” (Hasan)

SUNAN TIRMIDHI (Vol. 1, Book 7, Hadith 1162)

Narrated Mu’awiyah ibn haydah: I said: Apostle of Allah, how should we approach our wives and how should we leave them? He replied: Approach your tilth when or how you will, give her (your wife) food when you take food, clothe when you clothe yourself, do not revile her face, and do not beat her.

ABU DAWOOD (Book #11, Hadith #2138)

IMAAM AL-BAGHAWI SAID :-

“Al-Khattaabi said: this is a command to spend on women and clothe them, according to the capabilities of the husband. As the Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) made this a right of women, it is necessary whether the husband is present or absent. If the husband is not able to do it, it become a debt which he owes, as with all other duties, whether or not the qaadi (judge) issues a decree to that effect.”

Narrated Mu’awiyah al-Qushayri: Mu’awiyah asked: Apostle of Allah, what is the right of the wife of one of us over him? He replied: That you should give her food when you eat, clothe her when you clothe yourself, do not strike her on the face, do not revile her or separate yourself from her except in the house.

ABU DAWOOD (Book #11, Hadith #2137)

It was reported that Wahb said:“A freed slave of ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr said to him, ‘I want to go and spend this month there in Jerusalem.’ He said, ‘Have you left enough for your family to live on during this month?’ He said, ‘No.’ He said, ‘Then go back to your family and leave them what they need, for I heard the Messenger of Allaah SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) saying: “It is enough sin for a man not to give food to the one whom he is supposed to feed.

MUSNAD AHMAD (HADITH 6664)

SOURCE OF MUSNAD AHMAD :-

http://www.islamweb.net/hadith/display_hbook.php?bk_no=121&hid=6664&pid=672351

Hasan (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah will ask everyone who has been given responsibility about whatever he was responsible for, until He asks a man about his family.”

IBN HIBBAN (HADITH 4585)

SOURCE OF IBN HIBBAN. :-

http://www.islamweb.net/hadith/display_hbook.php?bk_no=454&pid=386077&hid=4585

NOT HARMING WIFE. :-

This is one of the basic principles of Islam. Because harming others is haraam in the case of strangers, it is even more so in the case of harming one’s wife.

It was narrated from ‘Ubaadah ibn al-Saamit that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) ruled, “There should be no harming nor reciprocating harm.”

IBN MAJAH (HADITH 2340)

Among the things to which the Lawgiver drew attention in this matter is the prohibition of hitting or beating in a severe manner.

INTERCOURSE. :-

The husband is obliged to have intercourse with his wife on a reasonable basis, which is one of the most important rights that she has over him; it is more important than feeding her. he wise husband must do is take care of his wife in that regard and give it priority over everything else, so that he may keep her chaste, conceal her and meet her needs as much as he can, even if he does not have an urgent need for that and even if he had to do it only for her.

SHAYKH AL-ISLAM IBN TAYMIYAH SAID : –

“It is obligatory for the husband to have intercourse with his wife as much as is needed to satisfy her, so long as this does not exhaust him physically or keep him away from earning a living… If they dispute over this matter, the judge should prescribe more in the way of intercourse just as he may prescribe more in the way of spending.”

(AL-IKHTIYAARAAT AL-FIQHIYYAH MIN FATAAWA SHAYKH AL-ISLAM IBN TAYMIYAH PAGE 246)

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked about a man who stayed away from his wife for a month or two months and did not have intercourse with her; was there any sin on him or not? Could the husband be asked to do that?

He replied: The husband is obliged to have intercourse with his wife on a reasonable basis, which is one of the most important rights that she has over him; it is more important than feeding her. It was said that what is obligatory with regard to intercourse is once every four months, or according to her need and his ability, just as he should feed her according to her need and his ability. And the latter is the more correct opinion.

(MAJMOO‘ AL-FATAAWA, 32/271)

NOTE :-

There are other texts which we do not have room to mention here. We have Explained in detailed regarding the rights of wives please check the below link.

https://islaahh.wordpress.com/2012/11/01/rights-of-husband-wife/
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ISLAM HONOURS WOMEN AS SISTERS. :-

Islam honours women as sisters and as aunts.Islam enjoins upholding the ties of kinship and forbids severing those ties in many texts.

‘A’isha reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Kinship (rahim) is derived from Allah. If anyone maintains ties of kinship Allah maintains ties with him. If anyone cuts them off, Allah cuts him off.”

ADAB UL MUFRAD (Book 2, Hadith 9)

Anas ibn Malik reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Anyone who wants to have his provision expanded and his term of life prolonged should maintain ties of kinship.”

ADAB UL MUFRAD (Book 2, Hadith 10)

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O people! Spread (the greeting of) salaam, offer food (to the needy), uphold the ties of kinship, and pray at night when people are sleeping, and you will enter Paradise in peace.”

IBN MAJAH (HADITH 3251)

SOURCE OF IBN MAJAH :-

http://www.islamweb.net/newlibrary/display_book.php?idfrom=3243&idto=3362&bk_no=5&ID=1221
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CONCLUSION. :-

Islam protects the honour, chastity, purity and lineage of the family, so it encourages marriage and forbids free mixing of men and women. Islam gives each family member an important role to play. So fathers and mothers take care of the children and give them an Islamic upbringing; children are to listen and obey, and respect the rights of fathers and mothers, on a basis of love and respect. Even our enemies have borne witness to the strength of family ties among the Muslims.

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